Being a mom is a full-time job (on top of whatever else you have going on). With kids needing your attention, a household to run, and possibly work outside the home, finding time for self-care can feel impossible. But here’s the thing—self-care doesn’t have to mean long spa days or weekends away. Sometimes, it’s the little things that make the biggest difference.
Here are some simple self-care ideas that fit into a busy mom’s life—no extra time required.
1. Find a Hobby That Fits Your Life
Hobbies don’t have to be elaborate or time-consuming. I love puzzles because I can do them at home without relying on someone to watch the kids. Reading is another favorite, but I’ll be honest—it can be frustrating with constant interruptions. Find something that brings you joy and is easy to pick up and put down as needed. Whether it’s knitting, baking, doodling, or even playing a word game on your phone, giving yourself a little space to enjoy something just for you is so important.
If you like puzzles, get a puzzle board like this one. Then you don’t have to take up the whole kitchen table while you finish it.
2. Balance Kid-Free Time with Your Partner
If you have a partner at home, navigating personal time can be tricky. My husband loves spending time together after the kids go to bed, but that’s also when I want time to myself. Fortunately, he’s super understanding and lets me have that space when I need it. Having a conversation about balance is key. It’s important to prioritize your relationship, but it’s just as important to make sure you’re getting time for yourself, too.
3. Exercise (Even Just a Little Bit)
Exercise isn’t just about fitness—it’s a huge mood booster. Studies show that physical activity releases endorphins, which reduce stress and improve mental health (Mayo Clinic). The hardest part is getting started, but once it’s part of your routine, it becomes second nature.
You don’t need a gym membership or an hour-long workout. Try free YouTube workouts at home, go for a walk, or even do some stretching while your kids play. If you can involve them—like taking them on a stroller walk or having a dance party in the living room—it’s a win-win.
4. Find a Friend (Even If You’re an Introvert)
Mom life can be lonely, even when you’re never actually alone. I’m a homebody and terrible at making strong friendships, so I totally get how hard this can be. My closest friends are my sister and sisters-in-law. But having someone outside of your immediate family to talk to and spend time with can make a huge difference. It doesn’t have to be a deep, lifelong friendship—even just chatting with another mom at the park or sending a funny meme to a friend can help you feel more connected.
If you want to meet mom friends, my best tip is to get your kids involved in activities. I met one of my good friends at a tumbling class that both of our kids were in.
5. Small Nutrition Changes Make a Big Difference
I always feel better when I’m feeding my body the nutrients it needs. But let’s be real—perfect nutrition isn’t happening every day. Instead of stressing about a total diet overhaul, focus on small changes: drink more water, add a vegetable to one meal, or swap one snack for something a little healthier.
And let go of the guilt! Mom guilt over food choices and body image is real, but self-care means showing yourself grace.
6. Rediscover Who You Are Outside of Motherhood
Motherhood is all-consuming, and it’s easy to lose yourself in the constant needs of your kids. But you are still a whole person beyond being a parent.
What do you love? What interests you? What goals do you have that don’t revolve around your kids? This isn’t something you have to figure out overnight—it’s an ongoing journey. I’m still discovering who I am outside of motherhood, and that’s okay.
Maybe it’s a creative outlet, learning something new, or starting a small side project. Having something that’s just for you, no matter how small, gives you a sense of self beyond “Mom.”
7. Journaling: A Brain Dump for Your Mental Clarity
I’m not a consistent journaler, but when I’m overwhelmed, a brain dump works wonders. Just grab a notebook (or your phone’s notes app) and write everything down—no filtering, no organizing. It doesn’t have to make sense, and you don’t have to keep it. The act of getting thoughts out of your head helps release stress.
If you like more structured journaling, try writing down three things you’re grateful for each day. Gratitude has been shown to improve mental well-being (Harvard Health).
8. Make Your Bed (Even If It Feels Pointless)
This one is so simple, yet I struggle with it. But I have to admit, my whole bedroom feels calmer when my bed is made. It’s a two-minute task that gives you an instant win for the day. Plus, it sets the tone for a tidier space, which can have a positive impact on mental clarity.
Maybe this is a goal I should work on.
9. Do Something Kind for Someone Else
Helping others boosts your mood—it’s science! Studies show that small acts of kindness reduce stress and increase happiness (Cleveland Clinic).
And it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture! Write a quick note, send a text to check in on a friend, or give a genuine compliment. If you want to involve your kids, have them draw a picture or write a letter for a grandparent. Big service projects aren’t always realistic, but little acts of kindness fit into everyday life.
Self-Care Doesn’t Have to Be Complicated
At the end of the day, self-care isn’t about escaping your life—it’s about making small, intentional choices to take care of yourself within the life you already have. You don’t need more hours in the day to prioritize yourself. You just need to start recognizing that you matter, too.
What are your favorite ways to help you feel like your own person again? Let me know in the comments and maybe I’ll add it to my list!
